Annnnnd manifest your dreams into reality. Todays post is written by Tristan. xo Enjoy….
I love talking about relationships with my girlfriends, the new beginnings, the messy parts that no one sees, the beautiful parts that people feel weird bragging about. I love the gush and the realness.
I grew up watching one of the greatest love stories. My parents. I feel lucky to witness a marriage like that everyday… to know what to look for… to show me what real love looks like. It is a gift. My parents love needs a whole blog post. It has survived a lot…. successes, loss, sickness, parenting 4 kids (ha), co-parenting (woah, huge) and still after 25 years it’s one of those loves that shines so bright. It is filled with a ton of adventure and excitement, a storybook kind of love. This is the kind of love that everyone deserves.
Chapter 1: I didn’t come this far to only come this far
I think it would be a shame to breeze over the past when all of our experiences, the good and the bad, teach us something and lead us somewhere. The obstacles, the excitement, and the heartache.
I always found dating to be so fun. I had two serious boyfriends before I met Andrew. With the first one, we thought we would be together until the end of time. It was perfect when it was and then messy when it wasn’t. Most of us have a person like this in their past.
I dated my second boyfriend for 5 years. We had a slow and steady relationship. We never really fought, we had a lot of respect for each other and we had some really great moments and years together. There were a lot of things right but there was also something missing. I can only describe it by a feeling that was absent. The idea that when you look at them, your heart just fills. But how do you break up with someone that you love and is so good to you. How do you know if there is more out there for you? Are you crazy to want more? Should you question it when the alternative could be being alone?
I consider myself lucky because he was the one that took a step back (which takes bravery) and realized that there was more out there for him, and for both of us. At the time it really hurt. Now I feel nothing but gratitude for him ending things between us. Maybe it’s wrong to give advice so I’ll just say.. if you were my friend, I would tell you that if you are in this position and you have this kind love but there is something missing, take a leap, make a hard change. It may sound cliché, but feel the fear and do it anyway. There is a new chapter waiting for you too.
Chapter 2: The hard part
After that breakup, I was pretty uncomfortable feeling sad and I wanted to change it. My way of getting out was surrounding myself with the best people, focusing on friendships, trying to stay present, and saying yes to lots of new experiences.
Whatever is good for your soul….. do that.
I knew in the back of my mind that things were going to be ok for me. I rode that wave and chose that mindset. I held on to the feeling of wanting to be adored, wanting to feel safe, and wanting to find that person that would make my heart fill up just looking at them. So I wrote to my angels.
Chapter 3: How to find your person
My Dad taught me about writing to your angels. This was how he met my Mom. He manifested his dream and turned it into a reality. From a letter. To his angels. He pulled his letter back out at their wedding and read it to the guests. It was incredibly shocking to hear the list describe my Mom and their relationship so perfectly.
Writing to your angels is not something religious, it is about putting what you want out there for the universe and your spirit angels to help you manifest.
Sit down with a pen and paper and an open heart and mind. Write from a place of gratitude and love. You can write a list or a letter, whatever is comfortable to you with all the things that you want in your life. Be very specific. It is important to note that you shouldn’t write “ I do not want someone who….” You have to write what you do want, not what you don’t want. You can write about career goals, personal goals, whatever you want to manifest. In my case I wrote about the kind of love I wanted. You can start your letter… Dear Angels, help me attract this into my life… When you’re finished writing, fold up your letter and put it in a safe place.
When in doubt, just take the next small step.
Chapter 4: Andrew
If I am being honest, when I met Andrew my heart was still in a bit of shock but I didn’t do that thing where you push a good thing away because the timing wasn’t right. He was patient and I was smitten. On our second date he said he was terrified because he had never felt like this before. That made me feel safe and not question things. This was real. After a few months I brought him home to meet my family. At the end of the weekend he got emotional and said that this was what was missing in his life. He felt so at home. To hear that was everything.
It’s been almost 5 years. Our love is so easy, so real, and it is everything I wrote to my angels about. We are getting married this July! Stay tuned on the blog, because of course we are going to be sharing some sahhhhweet wedding ideas, DIYs, and styling inspo!
I want to say that I couldn’t have dreamt up a partner like him because that’s the common thing that people say. The truth is though, I did dream him up and he walked right into my life and has never left.
Write to your angels. See what happens.
Sincerely and with the most excitement for all of us.