20 reasons why blogging is the best job I never knew I always wanted. P.S. cancer is an A-hole.

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20 reasons why blogging is the best job I never knew I always wanted. P.S. cancer is an A-hole | DESIGN THE LIFE YOU WANT TO LIVE | Lynne Knowlton

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Hello Friday.  Wine.  Hello Wine.

It’s Friday.  Time to go make stories for Monday.

List of things I’m currently handling well   1.________.

Having cancer around you is like getting constantly hit in the head with a ball. It has a way of de-evolving your life when you’re not looking.  Somehow, I just have to believe that the blog intentionally led me here. To help others.  To help you and to help me.

If cancer had a face, I’d punch it.

Attacking cancer | Dear cancer, here's a can of whoop ass. Open it. | DESIGN THE LIFE YOU WANT TO LIVE | Lynne Knowlton

Having a husband with terminal cancer is like riding on a wild locomotive ….screeching out of control…. with break away turns… rollercoaster moves… up and down peaks and valleys… at high speed… with no brakes… nary a safety belt in sight.  I’m not dramatic at all, am I?  I want to hoodwink cancer.  Hard.  Like Rocky Balboa.  Hard.  Bloody nose, gasping for air.  Hard.

Having cancer in your life is like having a two year old in the room, running the show.  Cancer is that naggy jerk in your head that says, “hey, are you sure you can travel?  What if I step in and ruin the party?  With its devilish grin, it says… “it sucks to be you.”

It’s the not knowing.  Not knowing when cancer is going to rear its fugly head.

I hate to admit it … but I think about it.  All the time.  Will Michael live or die this year?  Not knowing how long the love of my life will be with me is that naggy jerk in my head.  It overwhelms me.  I can’t imagine it.  But I can.  Cancer has taken every male relative in my life (with the beautiful exception of my brother.)

Its been 22 years of being married to the man of my dreams.  It has been greatness.  And by greatness, I mean greatness.  Michael is a man of greatness.  Of beauty.  Of kindness.   He has an outward focus. He has a masterful business mind.  He knows how to love.   He has loved on me every single day for 22 years.  Real love.  Deep love.  Lasting love.

Sounds unreal, doesn’t it?

Every word.

It’s true.

Life without him in it seems unfathomable to me.  It stops me in my tracks.  It overwhelms me.  Paralyzes me. Then.  This super shitty situation somehow kicks me into gear and exhilarates me to grab it by the scruff of the neck and shake it up.  It challenges me to keep on keeping on. To write to you. To share it with you.  Because I feel like you’ve been through battles and slept in the same foxholes as I have. My strengths come right along side my vulnerabilities, and surely yours must too.  Maybe, just maybe.. we can do this together.  Just maybe we can all find a way through our painful situations with me leading the way.

That’s why I write.

That’s why I share.

That’s why I blog.

And when it hurts the most.   I’ll just put one foot in front of the other.  And write.  Because we are in this together.

20 reasons why blogging is the best job I never knew I always wanted. P.S. cancer is an A-hole | DESIGN THE LIFE YOU WANT TO LIVE | Lynne Knowlton

Didja notice there’s a new look on the blog?  Revamping a blog is like sticking your head in an oven.  Managing the back end of my web site makes me want to kill myself.  I’ve got a history of dragging my feet when changing anything to do with blog layouts, dashboards or taking out the trash.  Now it’s painfully obvious why I procrastinated for f o r e v e r.  Because doing it, sucked donkey balls.

When I reorganized the blog, it was like going on a blind date and the guy showed up with a toupee.  Surprises everywhere. Old blog posts made me want to BARF.   Years ago, I must have had this attitude: WTF is this photo?  Who cares. It’s in focus. Lets post it in the blog!  Oh yay. Hint:  I posted a new photo gallery here. Phew.

Someone pass the malbec please.  I’ve officially died a thousand deaths of humiliation.  The struggle is real.

I was considering digging a hole, so I could jump in it.  Except that my favourite winter activity is going back inside where it’s warm.

In light of the old blog growing pains, I thought a giveaway would be a beautiful payback for all the suffering. Both mine.  And yours.

Goodbye old blog posts, hello new ones.  Like this one.  And this one <– So good, if you love massages!   These ones will make you happy.  This one will make you sad.   This one will make you want to shop in your jammies.  In our house, jammies are life.

I’m giving away presents from the new blog shop !!   One set of knitting needles, one gorgeous piece of Bali jewelry, and one sliding door track hardware kit.  This blog post is sponsored by me myself and I.   I just love ya like that.

20 reasons why blogging is the best job I never knew I always wanted. P.S. cancer is an A-hole | DESIGN THE LIFE YOU WANT TO LIVE | Lynne Knowlton

birch knitting needles

Do you love knitting?  Me too.  It keeps me from unraveling.  Love chunky wool blankets?  Ditto.  I knew I liked you. There’s two free knitting patterns HERE and HERE… <–I’m yelling at you.  They are THAT good.  There’s a fahhhreee tassel pattern too.  Your.mind.will.be.blown. when you see how fast and easy the chunky wool blankets are to knit.

handcrafted jewelry from Bali

Beautifully handcrafted jewelry from the island of Bali, Indonesia!! Each beautiful piece is lovingly handmade by the kind, hard working artisans in Bali, Indonesia.  I personally met many of the artisans and hand selected the jewelry.  Each piece is hand crafted. Nothing is ever ever ever made in a factory.

What’s that mean? Every bead, every tassle, every pom pom is individually strung on to each piece. Pretty amazing, right?  It is for that reason that they are only available in small batches.  Shop them here.

door track hardware kit

There’s a DOOR TRACK HARDWARE KIT <—- Sorry to yell. I nearly forgot to tell you about them!  The wooden wheels and hangers are handcrafted by local Amish.  L o c a l   A M I S H.  Holy batman.  The craftsmanship.  It’s a super affordable DIY door track hardware kit too.  I’m offering the DIY door track hardware ebook for free during this giveaway.  You can download it here.

PS.  I paint my door track rails white, because, hello… have you met me?


GIVEAWAY! Enter to win your own DIY door track hardware kit | Wooden wheels & hangers are custom made by the local Amish | DESIGN THE LIFE YOU WANT TO LIVE | Lynne Knowlton

Years ago, I started a hobby blog to keep in touch with my friends and family.  Then it grew.   After millions of page views, well… I learned 20 things.

What can I say?  I’m a slow learner.

(insert big toothy grin)

Blogging is the best job I never knew I always wanted.

{ What I learned, and wish I knew about 4823947350734 blog posts ago. }

 1.   What’s it really mean to be a blogger?  You’ll have a new main squeeze. He’ll absorb your head space.  You’ll think about him all the time.  His name is BLOG.  He can be unruly and he’s high maintenance.


2.  Blog this. Blog that.  Don’t compare your beginning to someone else’s middle.  Comparing your blog to another one, seven pages over…well..it’s just stoopid.  It will dull your sparkle and deflate your love balloons.


3.  By the time you’ve been blogging for a few years, you’ll have a butt that resembles a pancake, a protruding buddha belly and many empty bottles of wine to show for it. Wine does not solve problems but neither will water.


4.  You’ll discover that for some strange reason, your barfworthy blog posts will be the most successful posts on your blog *punches self. *


5.   Writing is like a mini-skirt.  It has to be short enough to be interesting, but long enough to cover the subject.


6.  Don’t get hogtied to social media.  You own your blog.  You don’t own social media platforms.  It’s their bat.  Their ball.  Their rules.  Social media is the water cooler.  Use it.  Share it. Have drinks around it.  But the office owns it.


7.   Your authentic, down to earth, real voice is your greatest asset.  That, and good hair days.


8.   Facts tell, stories sell. Be ridiculously interesting.  Life is too short to have a boring blog. Last night I fell asleep on your blog. Sorry about the drool.


9.   You have to be a geeky nerd to figure shit out.  It’s hard work.  A lot of trapped wine will be rescued from wine bottles.   You’ll know you’re drunk when you have to grab onto the grass to keep from falling off the earth.


10.   You’ll find your niche.  Or it will find you.  It’s is no secret that I love white in my home style.  I’ve forced you to like it too, right?  Right.  Weirdo.


11.    You’ll get tired.  Really tired.  Your eyes water when you yawn, because you’ll miss your bed and it makes you sad.


12.   Blog subscribers will be the light on your front porch.   I send emails AKA love letters on Fridays.   We laugh.  We cry.  I tell dirty jokes and share inappropriate quotes.  You can be a part of that hot mess of awesomeness by subscribing here.


13.   It’s freaking scary to hit the publish button on a blog post.  It’s okay to be scared. Being scared means that you are about to do something very very brave.


14.   You’ll drink an enormo amount of coffee and then do stupid things faster with more energy.


15.   You’ll acquire the secret talent of getting tired without doing anything.


16.   You’ll make mistakes.   People will say: “what the hell were you thinking?”  I dunno.  I was thinking it was a good idea annnnnnnnnd I’d get away with it.  Btw, the homemade baileys made me do it.


17.   Your inner critic is a jerk.  Create something.  Even if it sucks.


18.  Ignore the haters because it can make even the most seasoned bloggers want to lie on the floor and weep.


19.  Don’t be afraid to start over & rebuild what you have.  It’s a brand new opportunity to create what you truly want.


20. Don’t stop. Keep on rolling.  I think this one is self-explanatory.


20 reasons why blogging is the best job I never knew I always wanted. P.S. cancer is an A-hole | DESIGN THE LIFE YOU WANT TO LIVE | Lynne Knowlton


Soooo I took the Instagram stories plunge and finally started posting Instagram story videos.  Because I need yet another THING in my life.  But I dig it!  Are you on Instagram?   It’s cool to be square.   Follow me here to watch our insta stories & see daily snippets of life.   I promise I won’t post videos of Michael half naked in a snow storm.  Except that I already did.

20 reasons why blogging is the best job I never knew I always wanted. P.S. cancer is an A-hole | DESIGN THE LIFE YOU WANT TO LIVE | Lynne Knowlton


GIVEAWAY! Enter to win knitting needles, door track hardware or handcrafted jewelry | DESIGN THE LIFE YOU WANT TO LIVE | Lynne Knowlton


  • Can I just go on record right now and say I hate rules?  Duly noted. Me no likey.


  • Pin any photo(s) from the blog post


  • The giveaway is only open to blog subscribers.  If you aren’t already subscribed, you can hop in here.  P.S. S.ssss…sss.. I only send 2-4 emails a month.  Usually on a Friday.  You’ll get inspired.  You’ll get exclusive deals. We laugh. We cry.  It’s a real hootenanny.



  • Winner winner chicken dinner will be selected from the comments and announced on Friday, March 3rd, 2017.

20 reasons why blogging is the best job I never knew I always wanted. P.S. cancer is an A-hole | DESIGN THE LIFE YOU WANT TO LIVE | Lynne Knowlton

Better days are coming. They’re called Saturday and Sunday.


Wait.  I have one more important thing to tell you.

I love you!

I said it.

I mean it.

I weirdly love you.

That is all.

The end.

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  1. Victoria

    February 18th, 2017 at 2:20 pm


    I’m new to your blog, but from the moment I found it….I was in love! The photos are visually beautiful!!! And then come the words…..the words! You have a way of articulating beauty and pain that enables the readers (me) to relate to you in a way that helps me realize……we are not alone in this thing called life. We are more connected then we realize!
    I wish only…..that you find peace in your heart for this journey that you are on and that a beautiful white light surrounds you and your family!!!!

  2. Anou Kolhatkar

    February 18th, 2017 at 4:11 pm

    Hi Lynne, I found your blog while searching for knit blanket patterns and was hooked. I love the beautiful photographs and your writing, also the new layout is fab. Thank you for the Friday letter and this amazing blog post, it was inspirational. love and best wishes.

  3. Lynne Knowlton

    February 19th, 2017 at 10:20 am

    Ahhhhhh schmanks for the blog love Anou. *blush* Much appreciated! Lynne xx

  4. Sandy Bennett

    February 18th, 2017 at 5:06 pm

    Lynne, you wicked, wonderful, talented soul sister, thank you so much for all that you share with us. What a gift you have to be able to connect with people whether it’s the humour of the agony and ecstasy of renovations or the heartbreak of mortal combat with that sac of sh*t cancer…..I love, laugh and cry along with you and please know positive, loving energy is being sent to you all the way from Squamish :). I just about fell off my chair and did a break dance when I saw your gorgeous, super deluxe-o barn door track hardware…..I would looove to have that to make a door between my son’s music room and our living space. Don’t get me wrong – it’s just SWELL listening to my son’s death metal and the late night band practices and the ear shattering, brain splitting decibels one must scream to emote such angst…..I just think a handy (but oh-so-beautiful sliding barn door) would help us all live a little more in harmony (seriously, I’m all in for being the uber cool mom who can so relate to the death metal scene but honestly, who am I kidding?? I’m an 80’s girl – Twisted Sister was about as hard edged as I could get!!). Thanks for the rant and much love to you Lynne 🙂

    p.s. your pics of outside in the winter are spectacular! We lived on a farm in Campbellville for 10 years and they bring back so many wonderful memories!!! xoxo

  5. Brenna Nicholson

    February 18th, 2017 at 5:21 pm

    I’d love to enter to win the door track kit. We have a pantry door in our kitchen this would be perfect on as the open door gets walked into regularly as it sticks out into the entry way! Thank you for your blog, your humour and your honesty.

  6. Thanh

    February 18th, 2017 at 6:00 pm

    Dear Lynne,
    Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and your writing, I do enjoy so much reading your blog. I love everything about it especially your sense of humor, makes my day.. I fell in love with the cleopatra necklace (they’re all awesome) I wish I knew how to do jewels!!! But now i’ve learned how to make amazing wool garland sooo if it’s not the necklace it can be the knitting needles.

    Thank you !!!!

    Lots of love from me and my little cheeky baby Anastasia Rose.

  7. Dawn Cabral-Quimby

    February 18th, 2017 at 6:47 pm

    Hi Lynne,
    I love your posts, your writing style, your strength and your humor that you manage to maintain despite this awful thing called “cancer” which has set up camp in your home. While I’ve not had to deal with that, there are many other challenges that my family is currently facing, among them relocating our home. Our town had the audacity to approve the building of a casino within walking distance of my little farm, my little slice of Heaven. So, I am searching for a new location for my family, our horses, dogs, the whole gambit, and your door track hardware, (should I win) would be used for my next home, near my sister in a neighboring town, far from this absurdity. I would forever remember you, your family, your strength, and your generosity every time that I slipped through that door. I already have an Amish table and appreciate Amish quality. But back to you. Keep the faith, keep fighting the good fight, stay strong. Thank you for your generosity in this give-away. I wouldn’t want your job of selecting the winners, as there are so many awesome people here with amazing stories. Know that we are all following you. Hang in there. Praying for you. xoxo – Dawn

  8. Lynne Knowlton

    March 3rd, 2017 at 7:28 am

    Hello Dawn!!

    I just loved reading your comment, hearing your story and then I popped over to your website and saw how giving you are to others by donating to those in need. Your handcrafted soap looks like it is heaven for hands. I also grew up around horses, and rode in horse shows. I swear, it kept me out of malls and outta trouble.. and has been a wonderful roadmap for me.

    I wanted to let you know that you WON the door track hardware!!!! I’ll send you an email right now with all the deets.

    Big love!
    Lynne xx

  9. Dawn

    March 7th, 2017 at 8:32 pm

    Thank you so much Lynne! I feel so blessed. This is so awesome!!! xoxo -Dawn

  10. Ellen ashworth

    February 18th, 2017 at 7:16 pm

    Hey Lynne, I love your blog, love your blankets(made the first one) and I hate that your family is fighting cancer. I am probably ou of line, but please goggle “ph kills cancer”

  11. Lynne Knowlton

    February 19th, 2017 at 10:19 am

    I love hearing other ideas for punching cancer in the face Ellen…so…nope.. you are definitely not outta line. Thank you!

    Lynne xx

  12. JoAnne M

    February 18th, 2017 at 8:58 pm

    I was captured by your Pin….what you think about, you bring about. I became engrossed……went from page to page. I saw the chunky blanket and now want to learn to knit. My mother knits but has no patience for teaching. My daughter taught herself when my mother got frustrated. I’m thinking It will be up to me to learn. So, I will. I love the knitting needles and can’t wait until I can learn how to use them and knit this blanket. It will be my first venture into knitting. I’m thinking about knitting and will bring about knitting. I’m looking forward to spending more time on your blog in the future. I signed up for your newsletter as well. Can’t wait to meet you all and be another avid supporter.

  13. Nancy Clark

    February 18th, 2017 at 9:27 pm

    I so enjoy your blogs and find it amazing how you can keep your sense of humor even though your husband has cancer. My dear sweet husband waited too long to see a doctor and passed away a week after the cancer diagnosis…only 55 years young. I am glad that you and your husband are trying to cross a few things off of your bucket list. That’s awesome. I pray that you have many more memories together. Hugs to both of you!

  14. Alana

    February 18th, 2017 at 10:45 pm

    Lynne, love your blog and love your work!
    All your knitted projects are absolutely gorgeous. I’m pretty slack on emails sometimes opening it and this particular time I am so glad I did. Just had a catch up on your blog and I just want to say how sorry I am, that you and your family are going through this. Cancer is a B***H and its just so horrible to have to watch loved ones go through it. Sending you love and strength through this difficult time! <3 <3
    I also wanted to mention that I just recently made one of your chunky throws for a girlfriend for her baby shower. Needless to say every girl there was in awe of it and wanted one too! I definitely have to get on to making more and one for my bub soon to arrive!
    Thank you for all you do and the inspiration to create more beautiful things! xx

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