20 reasons why blogging is the best job I never knew I always wanted. P.S. cancer is an A-hole.

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20 reasons why blogging is the best job I never knew I always wanted. P.S. cancer is an A-hole | DESIGN THE LIFE YOU WANT TO LIVE | Lynne Knowlton

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Hello Friday.  Wine.  Hello Wine.

It’s Friday.  Time to go make stories for Monday.

List of things I’m currently handling well   1.________.

Having cancer around you is like getting constantly hit in the head with a ball. It has a way of de-evolving your life when you’re not looking.  Somehow, I just have to believe that the blog intentionally led me here. To help others.  To help you and to help me.

If cancer had a face, I’d punch it.

Attacking cancer | Dear cancer, here's a can of whoop ass. Open it. | DESIGN THE LIFE YOU WANT TO LIVE | Lynne Knowlton

Having a husband with terminal cancer is like riding on a wild locomotive ….screeching out of control…. with break away turns… rollercoaster moves… up and down peaks and valleys… at high speed… with no brakes… nary a safety belt in sight.  I’m not dramatic at all, am I?  I want to hoodwink cancer.  Hard.  Like Rocky Balboa.  Hard.  Bloody nose, gasping for air.  Hard.

Having cancer in your life is like having a two year old in the room, running the show.  Cancer is that naggy jerk in your head that says, “hey, are you sure you can travel?  What if I step in and ruin the party?  With its devilish grin, it says… “it sucks to be you.”

It’s the not knowing.  Not knowing when cancer is going to rear its fugly head.

I hate to admit it … but I think about it.  All the time.  Will Michael live or die this year?  Not knowing how long the love of my life will be with me is that naggy jerk in my head.  It overwhelms me.  I can’t imagine it.  But I can.  Cancer has taken every male relative in my life (with the beautiful exception of my brother.)

Its been 22 years of being married to the man of my dreams.  It has been greatness.  And by greatness, I mean greatness.  Michael is a man of greatness.  Of beauty.  Of kindness.   He has an outward focus. He has a masterful business mind.  He knows how to love.   He has loved on me every single day for 22 years.  Real love.  Deep love.  Lasting love.

Sounds unreal, doesn’t it?

Every word.

It’s true.

Life without him in it seems unfathomable to me.  It stops me in my tracks.  It overwhelms me.  Paralyzes me. Then.  This super shitty situation somehow kicks me into gear and exhilarates me to grab it by the scruff of the neck and shake it up.  It challenges me to keep on keeping on. To write to you. To share it with you.  Because I feel like you’ve been through battles and slept in the same foxholes as I have. My strengths come right along side my vulnerabilities, and surely yours must too.  Maybe, just maybe.. we can do this together.  Just maybe we can all find a way through our painful situations with me leading the way.

That’s why I write.

That’s why I share.

That’s why I blog.

And when it hurts the most.   I’ll just put one foot in front of the other.  And write.  Because we are in this together.

20 reasons why blogging is the best job I never knew I always wanted. P.S. cancer is an A-hole | DESIGN THE LIFE YOU WANT TO LIVE | Lynne Knowlton

Didja notice there’s a new look on the blog?  Revamping a blog is like sticking your head in an oven.  Managing the back end of my web site makes me want to kill myself.  I’ve got a history of dragging my feet when changing anything to do with blog layouts, dashboards or taking out the trash.  Now it’s painfully obvious why I procrastinated for f o r e v e r.  Because doing it, sucked donkey balls.

When I reorganized the blog, it was like going on a blind date and the guy showed up with a toupee.  Surprises everywhere. Old blog posts made me want to BARF.   Years ago, I must have had this attitude: WTF is this photo?  Who cares. It’s in focus. Lets post it in the blog!  Oh yay. Hint:  I posted a new photo gallery here. Phew.

Someone pass the malbec please.  I’ve officially died a thousand deaths of humiliation.  The struggle is real.

I was considering digging a hole, so I could jump in it.  Except that my favourite winter activity is going back inside where it’s warm.

In light of the old blog growing pains, I thought a giveaway would be a beautiful payback for all the suffering. Both mine.  And yours.

Goodbye old blog posts, hello new ones.  Like this one.  And this one <– So good, if you love massages!   These ones will make you happy.  This one will make you sad.   This one will make you want to shop in your jammies.  In our house, jammies are life.

I’m giving away presents from the new blog shop !!   One set of knitting needles, one gorgeous piece of Bali jewelry, and one sliding door track hardware kit.  This blog post is sponsored by me myself and I.   I just love ya like that.

20 reasons why blogging is the best job I never knew I always wanted. P.S. cancer is an A-hole | DESIGN THE LIFE YOU WANT TO LIVE | Lynne Knowlton

birch knitting needles

Do you love knitting?  Me too.  It keeps me from unraveling.  Love chunky wool blankets?  Ditto.  I knew I liked you. There’s two free knitting patterns HERE and HERE… <–I’m yelling at you.  They are THAT good.  There’s a fahhhreee tassel pattern too.  Your.mind.will.be.blown. when you see how fast and easy the chunky wool blankets are to knit.

handcrafted jewelry from Bali

Beautifully handcrafted jewelry from the island of Bali, Indonesia!! Each beautiful piece is lovingly handmade by the kind, hard working artisans in Bali, Indonesia.  I personally met many of the artisans and hand selected the jewelry.  Each piece is hand crafted. Nothing is ever ever ever made in a factory.

What’s that mean? Every bead, every tassle, every pom pom is individually strung on to each piece. Pretty amazing, right?  It is for that reason that they are only available in small batches.  Shop them here.

door track hardware kit

There’s a DOOR TRACK HARDWARE KIT <—- Sorry to yell. I nearly forgot to tell you about them!  The wooden wheels and hangers are handcrafted by local Amish.  L o c a l   A M I S H.  Holy batman.  The craftsmanship.  It’s a super affordable DIY door track hardware kit too.  I’m offering the DIY door track hardware ebook for free during this giveaway.  You can download it here.

PS.  I paint my door track rails white, because, hello… have you met me?


GIVEAWAY! Enter to win your own DIY door track hardware kit | Wooden wheels & hangers are custom made by the local Amish | DESIGN THE LIFE YOU WANT TO LIVE | Lynne Knowlton

Years ago, I started a hobby blog to keep in touch with my friends and family.  Then it grew.   After millions of page views, well… I learned 20 things.

What can I say?  I’m a slow learner.

(insert big toothy grin)

Blogging is the best job I never knew I always wanted.

{ What I learned, and wish I knew about 4823947350734 blog posts ago. }

 1.   What’s it really mean to be a blogger?  You’ll have a new main squeeze. He’ll absorb your head space.  You’ll think about him all the time.  His name is BLOG.  He can be unruly and he’s high maintenance.


2.  Blog this. Blog that.  Don’t compare your beginning to someone else’s middle.  Comparing your blog to another one, seven pages over…well..it’s just stoopid.  It will dull your sparkle and deflate your love balloons.


3.  By the time you’ve been blogging for a few years, you’ll have a butt that resembles a pancake, a protruding buddha belly and many empty bottles of wine to show for it. Wine does not solve problems but neither will water.


4.  You’ll discover that for some strange reason, your barfworthy blog posts will be the most successful posts on your blog *punches self. *


5.   Writing is like a mini-skirt.  It has to be short enough to be interesting, but long enough to cover the subject.


6.  Don’t get hogtied to social media.  You own your blog.  You don’t own social media platforms.  It’s their bat.  Their ball.  Their rules.  Social media is the water cooler.  Use it.  Share it. Have drinks around it.  But the office owns it.


7.   Your authentic, down to earth, real voice is your greatest asset.  That, and good hair days.


8.   Facts tell, stories sell. Be ridiculously interesting.  Life is too short to have a boring blog. Last night I fell asleep on your blog. Sorry about the drool.


9.   You have to be a geeky nerd to figure shit out.  It’s hard work.  A lot of trapped wine will be rescued from wine bottles.   You’ll know you’re drunk when you have to grab onto the grass to keep from falling off the earth.


10.   You’ll find your niche.  Or it will find you.  It’s is no secret that I love white in my home style.  I’ve forced you to like it too, right?  Right.  Weirdo.


11.    You’ll get tired.  Really tired.  Your eyes water when you yawn, because you’ll miss your bed and it makes you sad.


12.   Blog subscribers will be the light on your front porch.   I send emails AKA love letters on Fridays.   We laugh.  We cry.  I tell dirty jokes and share inappropriate quotes.  You can be a part of that hot mess of awesomeness by subscribing here.


13.   It’s freaking scary to hit the publish button on a blog post.  It’s okay to be scared. Being scared means that you are about to do something very very brave.


14.   You’ll drink an enormo amount of coffee and then do stupid things faster with more energy.


15.   You’ll acquire the secret talent of getting tired without doing anything.


16.   You’ll make mistakes.   People will say: “what the hell were you thinking?”  I dunno.  I was thinking it was a good idea annnnnnnnnd I’d get away with it.  Btw, the homemade baileys made me do it.


17.   Your inner critic is a jerk.  Create something.  Even if it sucks.


18.  Ignore the haters because it can make even the most seasoned bloggers want to lie on the floor and weep.


19.  Don’t be afraid to start over & rebuild what you have.  It’s a brand new opportunity to create what you truly want.


20. Don’t stop. Keep on rolling.  I think this one is self-explanatory.


20 reasons why blogging is the best job I never knew I always wanted. P.S. cancer is an A-hole | DESIGN THE LIFE YOU WANT TO LIVE | Lynne Knowlton


Soooo I took the Instagram stories plunge and finally started posting Instagram story videos.  Because I need yet another THING in my life.  But I dig it!  Are you on Instagram?   It’s cool to be square.   Follow me here to watch our insta stories & see daily snippets of life.   I promise I won’t post videos of Michael half naked in a snow storm.  Except that I already did.

20 reasons why blogging is the best job I never knew I always wanted. P.S. cancer is an A-hole | DESIGN THE LIFE YOU WANT TO LIVE | Lynne Knowlton


GIVEAWAY! Enter to win knitting needles, door track hardware or handcrafted jewelry | DESIGN THE LIFE YOU WANT TO LIVE | Lynne Knowlton


  • Can I just go on record right now and say I hate rules?  Duly noted. Me no likey.


  • Pin any photo(s) from the blog post


  • The giveaway is only open to blog subscribers.  If you aren’t already subscribed, you can hop in here.  P.S. S.ssss…sss.. I only send 2-4 emails a month.  Usually on a Friday.  You’ll get inspired.  You’ll get exclusive deals. We laugh. We cry.  It’s a real hootenanny.



  • Winner winner chicken dinner will be selected from the comments and announced on Friday, March 3rd, 2017.

20 reasons why blogging is the best job I never knew I always wanted. P.S. cancer is an A-hole | DESIGN THE LIFE YOU WANT TO LIVE | Lynne Knowlton

Better days are coming. They’re called Saturday and Sunday.


Wait.  I have one more important thing to tell you.

I love you!

I said it.

I mean it.

I weirdly love you.

That is all.

The end.

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  1. Crystal

    February 18th, 2017 at 11:43 pm

    I have followed you on instagram for a fair while now! Love your tree house and your sense of humour ? I would love to win the door track hardware from my new house I am building! I would have bought it already except postage is a bitch, but if I win it and only have to pay postage that won’t seem so bad ? Xx

  2. Lynne Knowlton

    February 19th, 2017 at 10:16 am

    If I got a nickel for every time the post office made money for all our shipments, I’d be a rich lady. LOL! Isn’t postage a big B, Crystal? I agree wholeheartedly. Pffffft.

    Best of luck with the beautiful contest… and yes… we pay the postage for the contest winners 🙂 so no worries on that one.

    Lynne xx

  3. Antonia P.

    February 19th, 2017 at 1:40 am

    Sending hope and best wishes your way <3 . I found your blog by accident, but what a happy accident it was. I love the layout, font and colors of your blog. It's minimalist yet still fun and playful. I would love to win the knitting needles in your giveaway. I always love to knit to comfy warm, sweaters and accessories. Giving my mind something simple and repetitive to focus on really helps to calm my anxiety. I always wanted to make a giant knitted blanket and these needles and your blanket pattern would be perfect!

  4. Lynne Knowlton

    February 19th, 2017 at 10:16 am

    You too Antonia? It really helps to calm my anxiety too. It is nice to keep the hands and head busy. It’s ahhhhhhhh.

    Big love, happy knitting…

    Lynne xx

  5. Dana

    February 19th, 2017 at 6:05 am

    I’ve only read the rain chain blog so-far, and I have to wonder if our husbands are related 😉

  6. Lynne Knowlton

    February 19th, 2017 at 10:17 am

    Hahaha… rain chains are d’bomb diggity. Our husbands may be related. LOL! It’s been years…and I still don’t have any rain chains on my house. *stomps foot* LOL

    Lynne xx

  7. Catherine Barrett

    February 19th, 2017 at 7:52 am

    I found you via “Tiny House” post on FB….and thank my lucky stars I did! You are just what I needed on so many levels!?

  8. Lynne Knowlton

    February 19th, 2017 at 10:18 am

    Hey Catherine,

    That’s super cool. Was that a post from a long time ago? I’m not sure I’ve even seen it. LOL!

    Big love,
    Lynne xx

  9. Dianna MUselmann

    February 19th, 2017 at 8:59 am

    I’d love the knitting needles because EVRYONE needs to lear how to knit….including me! Thanks for the opportunity Lynn….and your bets blog post ever!

  10. Carol S

    February 19th, 2017 at 9:26 am

    I took a few days before I read your post because I always like to savor each and every word. You are amazing and one of my secret mentors for when I start my blog. I too want to punch cancer in the face and kick it in the b-lls. My BIL died last spring from colon cancer. Brainwashed to think that he couldn’t take the time from his corporate prison to take care of himself. Another rant could start rolling out about that… My partner battled throat cancer for over a year and then another year of recovery. We are celebrating his beginnings of coming back to himself, but oh the journey has been a tough one. My brother is, so far, on top of his prostate cancer battle. Three of the big men in my life having to succumb to the indignity that comes with the nastiness of cancer. My heart goes out to you, Lynne. It’s hard to be brave when one doesn’t know the outcome, but to know takes a beyond-understanding amount of bravery. Prayers for you and family, too.
    Seems wrong to add this because I am full of you right now. However, we are DIYers, so the door hardware would be an awesome addition to our project list. Have just the spot. Hugs.

  11. Lynne Knowlton

    February 19th, 2017 at 10:14 am

    Hiya Carol !

    Thanks for reading my blog post… you are so sweet and man oh man…. cancer is a mofo isn’t it? You are a DIYer too? Faboooooosh! Best of luck with the contest… and thanks again for your beautiful words. Sending love and light to you too!

    Lynne xx

  12. Mary

    February 19th, 2017 at 9:36 am

    Lynne, you need a new spin on looking back at your older work so you aren’t so hard on yourself.

    Blog then to blog now: 1) shows how much you’ve learned; 2) shows how discerning your design eye has become; 3) shows you’ve grown in taste, style and character; and most importantly, 4) shows you are capable of learning all the time and taking what you have learned and adapting your life to meet Change–both the good and horrible (a-hole C) in life. xo

  13. Lynne Knowlton

    February 19th, 2017 at 10:03 am

    Ahhhhhh good point Mary!

    So I won’t need a barf bucket after all 🙂 Woooohoooooo! I wanted to delete them all… haha…but now that you mention it, maybe it is a good thing that I didn’t. I love love love learning, so maybe I needed that to remind myself.

    That was a great therapy session. Thank you. LOL.

    PS. I love ya for saying so!
    Lynne xx

  14. Crocetta

    February 19th, 2017 at 11:02 am

    I just started a knitting group called the Knotty Knitters!!! As cool as its name is, it’s not the reason I started. It’s a support group for can-survivors and I’m loving the comradrerie, the laughs, and the honesty of the members. As a knitting newbie, I’ve found many parallels between knitting and my cancer journey. There are moments when everything is going well and you think “yeah! I can do this!”, then bang, shit hits the fan and you want to throw your needles and wool into the fire and just give up. Perserverence is an important lesson In, life as in knitting so I refuse to give up and I will be patient with my progress. Despite the imperfections in the status of my health or my knitting, it’s an opportunity for me to focus on the journey not the final destination/product. I’m enjoying being more present in the knitting and in life instead of letting my mind wander to the what ifs of tomorrow. Right now I’m learning on needles which were donated to the group (somebody told me they’re from the Dollar Store!). I will continue to use them because I’m still learning but I would feel like I’ve won the knitter’s jackpot if I had a chance to knit with those nifty needles. Btw, I appreciate your raw honestly in writing about Michael’s cancer journey and your attitude towards it has taught me that we all have choices in how we respond to such a catastrophic event. Thanks for sharing your true authentic self with us?

  15. Lynne Knowlton

    March 3rd, 2017 at 6:52 am

    Hi Crocetta !!! You won !! I’m sending you an email right now…. happy knitting !!!! Lynne xx

  16. Crocetta Sikorski

    March 4th, 2017 at 1:35 pm

    Thank you, thank you, Lynne!

    The Knotty Knitters were just as happy as me when I told them about winning the needles yesterday. I look forward to using them while learning more about knitting.

    On another note, I just want to say that you are a remarkable woman and
    a beacon of light to all of us on this journey called life. Your humour and wit brighten up our days and your raw honesty hits a chord that reminds us of the preciousness of life.

    Sending you hugs and love?

  17. Toni Headen

    February 19th, 2017 at 1:44 pm

    Reading your blog makes me feel like I’m curled up on the couch talking to a long lost friend. One that when you see them again. you both just pick up without missing a beat. Love your rustic design (i desperately need some door rollers). Am reno-ing a 1920 bungalow in Atlanta. 1 1/3 blocks from the zoo! (I can hear lions & elephants some days). I haven’t embraced the all white though. As my girlfriends say. “Well. You’re not afraid of color!” I hate that your family is walking through fire right now. I’m an RN an know the randomness & heartache that f it all! You are all inmy thoughts & prayers. I can’t wait to read more. As they say…we’re all in this together!

  18. Penny M

    February 19th, 2017 at 5:53 pm

    Like most people, I have lost family to cancer. Mother and Father in my case. Regardless who it is, family, friend, acquaintance it is never easy. The inability to do SOMETHING!!!!, yet you really can’t is haunting. hang in there!

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